Recovery Relovution Show

Sinopse

You've tuned to Recovery ReLOVution with Dr. Gala Gorman. If someone youre close to is struggling with addiction, you've got a lot at stake! That makes you a Recovery Stakeholder. And, you wouldn't be the first person living with an addict to say "I hate addiction." Well, were taking a different approach and if you choose to join us, you just might become a ReLOVutionaryloving the addict and outsmarting the addiction.

Episódios

  • 0019: Recognize the Warning Signs – How Stress Effects Your Health

    0019: Recognize the Warning Signs – How Stress Effects Your Health

    21/04/2017 Duração: 22min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes How can you deal with stress that isn’t likely to go away any time soon? If you’re living with an addict, your life is stressful. And, the lingering effects of stress are not to be taken lightly. If you find yourself unable to concentrate, lying awake at night, or neglecting the “to do list” of things that need attention in your own life, you are feeling the effects of stress. I’m going to help you recognize the warning signs that stress has taken control and build the stress management skills you need as a Recovery ReLOVutionary. In this episode, listeners will: Build the stress management skills they need to help deal with stress Understand what effects stress has on well-being, including mental, physical, and emotional Learn which kinds of stress is good and which is harmful Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:44 The article was on the USAToday.com website talking about five ways to cut stress in a 24/7 world. This doctor, Dr. Francoise Adan, who heads integrative medicine at University H

  • 0018: Dealing with Emotional Pain for a Healthier, Happier You

    0018: Dealing with Emotional Pain for a Healthier, Happier You

    13/04/2017 Duração: 24min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes When you experience an emotional upset – when you’re triggered emotionally, how do you typically react? Do you fight back or withdraw? In this moment, the brain takes action that makes it challenging to think rationally. There are reasons why this happens but, in most cases, it is an overreaction that results in more harm than good. We need to learn to recognize when it’s happening and take it off auto-pilot. In this episode, listeners will: Recognize when they’re overreacting emotionally Learn what to do when feeling triggered and reacting emotionally Communicate without escalating an emotional situation Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:48 This article was on the Huffington Post. It was titled, “9 Signs You Are Dealing with an Emotional Manipulator.” 06:37 Aware Appreciation. 08:53 When you experience an emotional upset – when you’re triggered emotionally, how do you typically react? Do you fight back or withdraw? 09:22 As we explore this topic today of being emotionally triggered and be

  • 0017: What Families of Addicts Need to Know About Guilt and Shame in Addiction Recovery

    0017: What Families of Addicts Need to Know About Guilt and Shame in Addiction Recovery

    06/04/2017 Duração: 20min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes When you have an experience that is unpleasant, do you find yourself looking for something or someone to blame for it? And, if your focus lands on someone, do you feel compelled to let them know they have caused you pain? Lastly, when you do communicate your feelings, do you use shaming language? If you’re like most humans, your answers to these questions might stir some emotions. Even a “yes” might be met with thoughts of how your actions are justified. Blaming and shaming is a game that no one wins. There is another way. In this episode, listeners will: Learn how people experience shame Differentiate between guilt and shame Gain insight into the emotions recovery stakeholders will experience Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:56 This article that I’m going to talk about is from a website called Crosswalk. The title is, “Should you feel shame for missing church?” 04:37 Aware Appreciation. 06:52 When you have an experience that is unpleasant, do you find yourself looking for something or so

  • 0016: What Causes Relapse and How to Prevent It

    0016: What Causes Relapse and How to Prevent It

    30/03/2017 Duração: 22min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes Why doesn’t change stick? It defies logic that an addict would muscle their way to sobriety only to fall back into addiction’s trap. Yet it happens over and over. As Recovery Stakeholders, we have a lot at stake. We can relate on some level. We managed to make some change we really wanted to make. And before we even finished celebrating, we found ourselves right back where we started … maybe even worse off. It’s important to understand what causes relapse. Once we understand why it happens, we can get out in front of it to prevent it. In this episode, listeners will: Understand what causes relapse and how to avoid it Differentiate between relapse and a “slip” Learn the warning signs for a relapse and what the stakeholder’s role is in recovery Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:48 This article that I came across was in The Lasallian and it talks about this program that is focused on training families and helping professionals so that they better understand addiction 05:27 Aware Appreciation.

  • 0015: Making a Change - How Bad Habits and Addictions are Stopped

    0015: Making a Change - How Bad Habits and Addictions are Stopped

    23/03/2017 Duração: 23min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes It is helpful to understand the stages of change so that you can recognize them … for yourself and others. Trying to make a change when you haven’t moved to the appropriate stage will do nothing more than increase resistance. At a minimum, that will make the change process way more difficult. As Recovery Stakeholders, there are changes that everyone in the family system needs to make … that will make living with an addict (in recovery or not) much easier. In this episode, listeners will: Learn to ease the struggle that accompanies change Understand what is required to change any habit … and make it stick Discover the warning signs that flash before a relapse happens Time Stamped Show Notes: 02:13 I found this article at Psychcentral and I thought it was really interesting. I had not heard of this particular stage of change referred to in this way previously. 04:57 Aware Appreciation. 07:12 What happens when someone breaks through denial? They move into the next stage of change. It is

  • 0014: How to Deal with Denial – What Addicts and Their Families Need to Know

    0014: How to Deal with Denial – What Addicts and Their Families Need to Know

    16/03/2017 Duração: 20min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes As Recovery Stakeholders, you know that denial is not unique to someone struggling with addiction. Stakeholders also experience denial … not wanting to accept the reality of their loved one’s addiction. How do we recognize something we can't see? What if denial is actually serving a purpose? Could it be an unavoidable part of the change process? Rather than being frustrated by denial, let’s dig a little deeper to understand it. In this episode, listeners will: Learn when denial can serve a good purpose, and when it doesn’t Accept that denial happens, and determine what to do about it when encountered Deal with denial and prepare to make necessary changes without denial getting in the way Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:42 This article was on Today.com about David Cassidy. David Cassidy struggled with alcoholism many years ago and had an issue on stage not long ago. 05:00 Aware Appreciation. 07:15 You may have heard that the translation for the word denial is “Don’t Even kNow I Am Lying.”

  • 0013: How to Flip the Disadvantage of Addiction – Benefits of Gratitude

    0013: How to Flip the Disadvantage of Addiction – Benefits of Gratitude

    09/03/2017 Duração: 19min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes There is tremendous value in expressing appreciation, especially when you do it with regularity. As a Recovery Stakeholder, you are living through a challenging situation. If you’re feeling like the world you live in is just too stressful to find things to appreciate, you’re not alone … and you have an even greater need to practice. Let’s find the motivation and learn how to do it to get the most benefit from it. In this episode, listeners will: Learn why Aware Appreciation is a beneficial practice Appreciate the positives in their lives, big and small Interrupt negative thinking with appreciation and move past negative emotions Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:43 This article was on Courant.com and it talks about the family’s experience. The person writing the piece is a lawyer. 05:42 Aware Appreciation. 07:57 Why do I take a couple of minutes in each episode to lead you through a mindfulness practice that ends with Aware Appreciation? There is tremendous value in expressing appreciation

  • 0012: Twelve-Step Group Support for Family Members of Addicts

    0012: Twelve-Step Group Support for Family Members of Addicts

    02/03/2017 Duração: 24min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes Many Recovery Stakeholders have attended 12-step meetings to show support for the recovery process. While this can be an eye-opener, it can quickly become an act of codependence. Rather, the 12-step program that is appropriate for the Recovery Stakeholder is not the same program that an addict attends. These programs for family and friends of addicts are companion programs with a similar structure. Some find just what they need with these groups. Others find them lacking. In this episode, listeners will: Get an overview of the positives and negatives of 12-step Anon programs Learn about Anon programs for Recovery Stakeholders Find community resources that may help aid their own recovery Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:33 I like to find stories that help us know this to be true and this one is no different. This story is from a site called Hightimes.com. It talks about marijuana or cannabis, which is a topic that is quite controversial these days. 07:45 Aware Appreciation. 10:00 Many Reco

  • 0011: Helpful Tips for Families of Addicts to Understand Addiction

    0011: Helpful Tips for Families of Addicts to Understand Addiction

    23/02/2017 Duração: 22min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes In this episode of Recovery ReLOVution, we’re going to challenge you to focus on your own healing. It’s not just the addict that needs to recover. YOU need to recover as well. Most Recovery Stakeholders are so focused on helping their addicted loved one find their way to recovery that they have set their own needs aside. You’re not helping the addict find recovery when you’re not demonstrating what it looks like to live a full and fulfilling life. There’s only one person’s healing you can influence and that’s yours. In this episode, you will: Prioritize healing and well-being Relinquish control over the addicted loved one’s actions Accept that dealing with addicts is traumatizing, and find out how to get help Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:21 Today, we are talking about healing for yourself and for your loved one. One of the things in the way of healing is trauma. 07:10 Aware Appreciation. 09:24 Can you relate to this? A Recovery Stakeholder shared that she felt guilty because she was c

  • 0010: Building Healthy Relationships with an Addict – Active or in Recovery

    0010: Building Healthy Relationships with an Addict – Active or in Recovery

    16/02/2017 Duração: 22min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes If you use shame to try to motivate your loved one to make a change, it’s going to backfire. Are you wondering if you are shaming the addict? There’s a good chances you are. It’s difficult not to when faced with the crazy thoughtless behavior that accompanies addiction. Still . . . it isn’t helping. Most of us grew up believing that shame would motivate someone to change. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. In fact, it just fuels addiction … just the thing you’re hoping to stop. We need to take a different approach. In this episode, you will: Communicate shamelessly with your addicted loved one Learn what to do when you can’t say anything nice Motivate your addicted loved one the RIGHT way Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:50 In this particular story that I’m going to share with you today it was reported in Tennessean which is the newspaper in Tennessee national particularly. 06:39 Aware Appreciation. 08:53 Do you find yourself saying things like, “I can’t believe you’re so selfish.”?

  • 0009: How to Set Healthy Boundaries with an Addicted Family Member

    0009: How to Set Healthy Boundaries with an Addicted Family Member

    09/02/2017 Duração: 22min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes We need to set some realistic expectations for recovery … for you and your loved one. It’s going to require you to do some things differently, including setting healthy boundaries with your addicted family member. And, it is not for sissies. Most recovery stakeholders are so focused on helping their addicted loved one get sober that they’re blindsided when sobriety turns to relapse. What kinds of things will you need to do differently? In this episode, you will: Prioritize their own recovery and become educated Learn to set boundaries with an addicted loved one Understand realistic expectations for recovery Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:15 I found an article that I wanted to share with you from a newspaper in Ohio. It talks about a man named Norm Zent. 05:30 Aware Appreciation. 07:45 Most recovery stakeholders are so focused on helping their addicted loved one get sober that they’re blindsided when sobriety turns to relapse. 08:09 To start, you need to figure out what you should be foc

  • 0008: Coping with PTSD for Family Members Living with an Addict

    0008: Coping with PTSD for Family Members Living with an Addict

    02/02/2017 Duração: 20min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes Why do so many addicts relapse? For anyone that is not struggling with addiction, it makes no sense. But, since addiction is medicating some problem, the addict is going to have to find another form of medication that is equally effective. Easier said than done. That’s why they so often relapse. We suggest a different approach. Get to the underlying cause and treat the symptoms. In most cases, those symptoms include trauma. To deal with an addict in your family that is trying to cope with PTSD, you are going to need some help. In this episode, you will: Understand the effects of trauma on your mind and body Determine the root traumatic experience of your emotional reactions to stressors Learn the differences between PTSD and trauma Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:12 In the news recently, it was the Indy Star … there was an article talking about drug overdoses. In particular, how people who have overdosed are treated in the hospital. 04:10 Aware Appreciation. 06:26 Since addiction is medi

  • 0007: Different Types of Addiction Treatment Programs - Rehab

    0007: Different Types of Addiction Treatment Programs - Rehab

    26/01/2017 Duração: 20min

    RecoverYES.com/Episodes   What comes after the intervention? Typically, a plan is already in motion. But is it going to get the job done? We’ll make sure you’re covering all the bases. Costs associated with addiction treatment can be staggering. But, the cost of not treating the problem could be the ultimate …. the end of life. How do you put together a course of treatment that will be effective and not break the bank? This episode will make sure you’re prepared. In this episode, you will: Understand different treatment options available for your loved one Understand the associated costs of treatment and what’s important Learn what to expect in treatment – realistic vs unrealistic expectations Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:43 The article says, "Extensive research has shown that receiving medical care and monitored support in the home promotes faster recovery, improves outcomes, and increases the patient's overall physical and psychological well-being." 04:04 Aware Appreciation. 06:29 How do you put together a

  • 0006: Should You Stage an Addiction Intervention?

    0006: Should You Stage an Addiction Intervention?

    19/01/2017 Duração: 18min

    RecoverYES.Com/Episodes We're going to discuss intervention. We're going to see it for what it is . . . and isn't. And, I'm going to introduce you to types of interventions that are probably new to you. You might be wondering how to do an intervention with someone you love … or even how to stage an intervention for addiction. If someone you care about is struggling with addiction, you may find yourself watching the show Intervention and hoping for answers or insight. Sometimes a formal intervention is the only way to stop the addictive behavior. But, stopping the behavior is not what's needed in the long term. It's important to approach intervention with a long-term mindset. In this episode, you will learn: About the different types of intervention How interventions can be used to help your loved one seek treatment How to prepare for an intervention for your loved one Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:29 I was brought to this post on the Huffington's post where a scholar was talking about the risks of military in

  • 0005: How to Avoid Overreacting

    0005: How to Avoid Overreacting

    12/01/2017 Duração: 17min

    When we are triggered emotionally, our thinking brain is taken offline so that we can focus on survival . . . fighting or running. Is it any wonder we don’t make great decisions when we’re angry? As ReLOVutionaries, we’re “amping up” the love. That’s going to require that our brain is fully functional! To make good choices and decisions, you need to learn to manage YOUR emotions. Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:18 A few months ago, Ozzy Osbourne admitted that he struggles with sex addiction. His wife, Sharon, has reportedly found the news shocking. 03:45 Aware Appreciation. 05:59 It seems simple - right? They should be able to make better choices. 06:19 As humans there is no way of escaping that feeling of being overwhelmed by emotion. We refer to this as being emotionally triggered. 09:01 We are going into fight or flight response. We couldn’t make a good rational decision if our life depended on it. 12:46 We want life to feel exhilarating but that can quickly derail your contentment. This is actually one of the

  • 0004: How to Stop Codependency and Avoid Enabling Your Addicted Loved One

    0004: How to Stop Codependency and Avoid Enabling Your Addicted Loved One

    05/01/2017 Duração: 16min

    In this episode, we’re talking about codependence. As humans, it is virtually impossible to escape without falling prey to this affliction. Many Recovery Stakeholders share that they feel like worrying about their loved one that's struggling with addiction is a full-time job. It can be challenging to break out of that web of confusion. You need to find a new job . . . one that prioritizes taking care of yourself. There are ways to keep codependence from consuming you. Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:10 Recently, Carrie Fisher, the Star Wars sweetheart suffered a heart attack on an airplane and died a few days later. 03:24 Aware Appreciation. 05:38 Many Recovery Stakeholders share that they feel like worrying about their loved one that's struggling with addiction is a full time job. 08:39 A lot of people who have a compulsive personality do find that they are all or nothing. They are 100% in it or 100% out of it. 11:25 This image includes stop behaviors, warning sign behaviors that indicate you are treadin

  • 0002: Understanding the Addicted Brain

    0002: Understanding the Addicted Brain

    29/12/2016 Duração: 16min

    In this episode, Dr. Gala helps you understand how addiction really works and what it’s trying to accomplish. If you are a recovery stakeholder, you'll be challenged to think differently as we dig deeper into ways that we can outsmart addiction. It is helpful to see addiction ... not really as an enemy but rather ... as a friend. And, it has served the addict well but its usefulness has come to an end. Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:03 Now, Johann Hari is definitely a recovery stakeholder. He had a number of family members that had struggled with addiction and it caused him to launch into several years of intense researching around the war on drugs. 03:40 Aware Appreciation. 05:57 If you're dealing with a loved one that is struggling with addiction, it is understandable that you would be cynical. Nothing you've done has made a difference . . . yet . . . What do we mean by outsmarting addiction? 11:16 Addiction is just a symptom of an underlying cause. Maybe you’ve started putting that together from what I’m s

  • 0003: How to Set Healthy Boundaries with Your Addicted Loved One

    0003: How to Set Healthy Boundaries with Your Addicted Loved One

    29/12/2016 Duração: 15min

    You know you need to do things differently but the people in your world . . . especially the addict . . . are probably not thrilled with your newfound approach to dealing with them or their problems. If you're trying to set and hold boundaries with an addict, you WILL face blow back. Addicts are masterful manipulators. Let's make sure you're prepared. Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:10 We live in Hilton Head, South Carolina. In the last few months, we were hit by two hurricanes. 03:20 Aware Appreciation. 05:38 If you're trying to set and hold boundaries with an addict, you WILL face blow back. Addicts are masterful manipulators. Let's make sure you're prepared. 08:47 Most of us set boundaries really easily\y but we don’t hold them. Or, maybe we don’t set them because we are fearful that we won’t hold them. 11:11 Then there is the thoughtful, loving, and intimate way of setting boundaries which is what I encourage you to develop. 12:29 In order to survive the storm that is addiction, you need to carefully plan t

  • 0001: Codependence and Addiction – How to Stop Codependency

    0001: Codependence and Addiction – How to Stop Codependency

    08/12/2016 Duração: 20min

    The stakeholder relationship is really important. Once you understand what it is, you will see it at work in many situations. As a recovery stakeholder, you have a stake in your loved ones’ recovery. You have a stake in seeing recovery stick. So, we coined the term recovery stakeholder. It seemed appropriate and most people that we have talked to that are in this boat agree. The important thing to recognize is that it is a slippery slope for a stakeholder to become codependent with the person that they are in relationship with.        Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:36   She talks about how she can see now that she enabled him as he was growing up . . . just trying to be a good mom that wanted life to be a little easier for her son.   02:13   Aware Appreciation.  04:28   Are you still scratching your head a bit? Wondering, what a recovery stakeholder is? And, even if you are one? Let’s start with defining recovery stakeholders.   09:34   Make sure that you are not enabling the addict and prolonging the inevitable

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