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  • Correcting Our Faulty System: Being The Cause in an Age of Global Chaos

    Correcting Our Faulty System: Being The Cause in an Age of Global Chaos

    23/10/2020 Duração: 58min

    Even when we can not control our global systems gone wrong, we can be the cause of healing individual which will then allow us to help ourselves and thus evolve other people. By self correcting, and looking in the truth mirror, we can begin to focus on identifying childhood wounds that have shadowed over us and have created us to break down. It is only through our individual healing that we can be the cause of making a difference globally. I invite everyone instead of identifying only with being an ism to remember that first and foremost that we are all human beings and part of the human race. I invite you all to join the human race.

  • Guilting and Shaming As a Form of Narcissistic Abuse Part 2

    Guilting and Shaming As a Form of Narcissistic Abuse Part 2

    02/10/2020 Duração: 59min

    In order to keep the focus off the narcissistic abusive person, they will blame shift on to you. This is a great way for them to avoid taking responsibility for their abusive behavior and induce you to question yourself. The best way you can prevent yourself from falling victim to their "tricks" is to psycho educate yourself about this narcissistic system as a terrible system gone wrong that affects families multi-generational and across cultures. Sibling rivalry is an unfortunate common fallout of this system gone wrong.

  • Guilting and Shaming As a Form of Narcissistic Abuse

    Guilting and Shaming As a Form of Narcissistic Abuse

    25/09/2020 Duração: 01h51s

    Guilting and shaming are ways to control and manipulate and divert the attention away from the narcissist victim. One way the narcissist will do this is by offering up fake apology that people buy into, that often times lead people into feeling they did something wrong. instead of vice versa. Genuine apologies include a sincere effort to make things right, "I am sorry" is just not enough. Taking the time to make people whole is understanding. Once buttons have been deactivated to healing, people are no longer a victim to be setup to feel guilt and shame that do not belong to them.

  • Honor Your Father and Mother: At What Cost?

    "Honor Your Father and Mother": At What Cost?

    18/09/2020 Duração: 54min

    Parents have to earn the right to be honored. If they provide you with the emotional and physical nutrients to help you thrive, they deserve to be honored. If they are abusive, neglectful, and unemphatic, don't feel bad about not honoring them. Honor them to the level that you feel is right for you, there are no right answers and in some cases, light connect, no connect, and low connect is appreciate. The most important thing is to process the anger and resentment that you have been holding in throughout your life, so that you can be a cause of a better outcome or a part two of your life.

  • Be The Light In The Time of Darkness

    Be The Light In The Time of Darkness

    11/09/2020 Duração: 59min

    In these trying times, it is best to concentrate on being the light rather than fighting the darkness. We have splintered off and fractured our humanity and now it is time for use to heal individually to heal globally. It does not take much, yielding in traffic, showing empathy to others that are tired or lonely or hungry. Lets work on ourselves individual to bring it to others and to use our curse by designs as to way to teach others how to overcome what we have worked hard to overcome for ourselves.

  • The Consciousness Behind Narcissism

    The Consciousness Behind Narcissism

    28/08/2020 Duração: 01h17s
  • Enabling Bad Behavior In a Relationship

    Enabling Bad Behavior In a Relationship

    21/08/2020 Duração: 01h02min

    Enablers of bad behaviors often times come from families that normalize bad behavior. When we are in a toxic environment we sometimes don't know we are in this toxic environment. Part of getting conscious and stopping this enabling behavior is identifying the blueprint that sets us up for tolerating it. It is important as a first attempt to direct our attention towards the behavior as oppose to the person. As I say to my patients, don't drop the person, drop the problem, but if the person wont drop the problem you may need to move on.

  • Addicted to Love and Toxic Bonds

    Addicted to Love and Toxic Bonds

    14/08/2020 Duração: 01h01min

    When your primary caregivers do not create safety and secure attachment, it lays a foundation for a system gone wrong. Parents that enroll their children in becoming parentified adult children will associate love with being smothered and controlled and can easy become love avoidant. Children who have been emotionally abandoned are more prone to become love addicts. Toxic bonds are formed when in the first few months and years of life. In order to avoid the repetition principle of selecting relationships that break you down, do your healing and dismantle the old blueprint so that you can paradigm shift into a new way of being.

  • Global Chaos  Mind Map Solutions

    Global Chaos & Mind Map Solutions

    07/08/2020 Duração: 55min

    In order for us to heal globally, we must heal individually. When we are in the consciousness of selfishness and apathy, we can not create synergy and global healing. Apathy is created when parents put their own needs before the needs of their children. It is a system gone wrong. This system gone wrong creates narcissistic injuries and psychopathic breakdowns. we need to realize that we are all interconnected and we are all responsible to heal ourselves, so that we can positively impact others and be the cause of better outcomes for not only our lives, but the lives of others. Pay your humane nature forward.

  • Healthy Versus Narcissistic Entitlement

    Healthy Versus Narcissistic Entitlement

    24/07/2020 Duração: 01h48s

    There is a difference between healthy entitlement and unhealthy entitlement. When children get their needs met, and feel OK about asking for their needs, they grow up in an environment of healthy entitlement. When children grow up either spoiled or deprived, they end up getting their needs met by controlling and empowering over others through aggressive or passive aggressive needs. Unhealthy entitlement is the same as unhealthy narcissism versus healthy narcissism. When our needs are meet early in life, we feel good about asking others about meeting our own needs. When we have a whole in the soul, the needs become an endless, bottomless pit that no one can fulfill.

  • Reopening Childhood Wounds Through Narcissistic Injury

    Reopening Childhood Wounds Through Narcissistic Injury

    17/07/2020 Duração: 58min

    Anything can reopen a narcissistic childhood wound; a sight, a smell, a dirty look, or name calling. When old wounds are reopening, negative core beliefs, such as: I am not lovable, I am stupid, I don't matter, I'm powerless, is reactivated. Unless we get to the root cause of the problem and dismantle the lies of these negative core beliefs, we can not truly heal at the causal level. Once we face these childhood wounds, we can reprocess the feelings and paradigm shift out of the darkness

  • “Action is the Only Remedy to Indifference - Elie Wiesel — Acts of a Omission

    “Action is the Only Remedy to Indifference" - Elie Wiesel — Acts of a Omission

    10/07/2020 Duração: 01h19s

    An act of omission is usually what a parent doesn't do for the child. An act of commission is what a parent does do for a child. The commission in this case is physical abuse, and emotional abuse. People fail to recognize that just cause acts of omission do not leave bruises, that there are not scares. Often time the bruise is internal and sometimes gets internalized and creates self destruction in the person. When there is an enlightened witness who can be a truth light to the victim, they can spare the individual the self blame or the projection that come with trying to rid themselves of the psychological poisons. Childhood is a hostage situation and even children that know the truth are in a horrible double dungeon of darkness situation because there is nothing that they can do since they need the parents to survive. Children would rather blame themselves then hold their parents reasonable.

  • How to Negotiate With a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung, Esq.

    How to Negotiate With a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung, Esq.

    02/07/2020 Duração: 01h12min
  • Healing and the Demise of the Narcissistic System

    Healing and the Demise of the Narcissistic System

    26/06/2020 Duração: 01h02min

    The demise of narcissism is based on healing. When we are healed we no longer want to play the game. A victim or preparator. Other peoples pain is no longer a gain and perceptually addicted to pain is no longer needed. Toxic bonds are not easy to break, telling people to just get over it and move on is the antithesis of being their enlightened witness. The physical or emotional abuse is painful enough, what is more painful is when society and the people around you deny your reality or minimize it.

  • Arrested Development  Chaos

    Arrested Development & Chaos

    19/06/2020 Duração: 01h01min

    Some of us look grown up, but inside we are not. Developmental arrest can occur as a result of childhood wounds/trauma. When we don't have healthy parenting and healthy dependence, it is impossible to mature and develop, separate, individuate, and become strong and autonomous. Emotional immaturity creates chaos because internally the person feels dis-regulated and chaotic. resorting to defense mechanisms like, alcohol, drugs, and overeating, not only don't help, they actual hurt the development process by locking us in psychological prison. To start to grow and mature we have to revisit the past, and heal our wounds.

  • Label-ism  Human Disconnect

    Label-ism & Human Disconnect

    12/06/2020 Duração: 54min

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  • Cultural Wounds and the Hole in the Soul

    Cultural Wounds and the Hole in the Soul

    05/06/2020 Duração: 01h02min

    When we are wounded on a micro level, these wounds express on a macro scale. The reverse of that is true. When we treat each other with human indignity, we create paranoia, angry, and when our voices are not heard to, attuned to, and empathized with; we tend to up the ante into projections and explosions. When we find pathways to healing and connection and mirror each other, we are the light that heals human and global disconnect. Be the light.

  • Trust


    29/05/2020 Duração: 01h01min

    Trust develops in the first few months or years of life. We are lucky enough to primary caregivers who are emphatic, nurturing, and attuned to our feelings, we will develop a sense of trust in ourselves and in the world. When we are wounded in childhood, trust is broken and we can either withdraw or continue to repeat bad patterns of trusting people who hurt and betray us. Once trust is broken, it is very hard to repair. Sometime we just have to pull back and self reflect and self correct on our own patterns and heal our childhood wounds.

  • Why People Chose an Ineffective Therapist and the WTF Pattern

    Why People Chose an Ineffective Therapist and the WTF Pattern

    22/05/2020 Duração: 01h02min

    Sometime people choose ineffectual therapists because they are repeating dysfunctional relationships from their family origin. After all, a therapeutic relationship is a relationship and if you have had a poor pattern of choosing dysfunctional relationships in general, please do your research before you choose your healer. A good therapist should a be a good fit for you, someone you feel comfortable with. A good therapist has a system that is clearly spelled out before you get involved with the therapy. A good therapist will also be transparent about methods and payments involved. A good therapist should have done his or her own therapeutic work and offer you referrals to others if they feel that you are not a good fit. Therapy is like dating, keep going until you find someone that you can benefit from.

  • How A Narcissist Steals Your Dreams

    How A Narcissist Steals Your Dreams

    15/05/2020 Duração: 57min

    In order to be vulnerable to narcissist abuse, we must be groomed to need outside validation. When are primary care givers attune to our emotional needs and leave us wanting for mirroring and attunement, we become desperate for this experience. When we lack good boundaries, people can penetrate our emotional walls in order to use and manipulate our need to feel important and be loved. In order to heal from this level of abuse and prevent ourselves from giving over our dreams, minds, and heart to people who abuse us we have to heal our inner wounds first.

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